Love is a much more pleasant emotion than hate. If we get a taste for love, we will give up our taste for hate. If we allow ourselves to appreciate someone we hate, it will transform our life.
Forgiveness takes place when there is a change in our hearts. If we only understand forgiveness in our minds, our hearts won’t change. Forgiveness comes when we are willing to open our hearts enough to feel the pain and hurt life presents to our abuser. When we do this, hostility begins to melt away.
When forgiveness matures further, our hearts open enough to become our abuser’s well-wisher. We pray for his or her well-being and happiness and we feel appreciation. As we do this, our resentment naturally and painlessly pours out of our softened hearts.